Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Why Does the Bride Carry Flowers?... by Peter Bruce Photo


Why does a bride carry Flowers at her wedding...

All birides carry flowers,but do you know why,well Peter Bruce Photo & Video is here to tell you why and show you some great samples of bouquets.



For centuries, flowers have stood for a variety of emotions and values. Roses for love, lilies for virtue and so on. In ancient marriages, the brides carried herbs beneath their veils to symbolize fidelity. Greek brides carried ivy as a symbol of never-ending love. Orange blossoms, (the world renowned wedding flower) were chosen by the Spaniards to represent happiness and fulfillment, because the orange tree flowers and bears fruit at the same time. During even earlier times of "primitive marriage," when the fear of demons was most prevalent, the brides carried stinking garlands of herbs and spices for the purpose of frightening off evil spirits.

Today, brides carry flowers in the color scheme of their wedding, bringing beauty and elegance as well as old world customs to their special day. Have you considered spelling out the name of your groom in the flowers of your bouquets?

We hope you enjoyed this,plesae let us know and let us know about any you want to here about.

Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Tipping at weddings by Peter Bruce


Over the years Peter Bruce Photo & Video has been ask a lot about tipping at wedding and there does not seem to be much good info out there,so I am stepping up to the plate.Here you go.

Though you may think you've accounted for every imaginable wedding expense, there is one fee that might elude you: the tip. Rewarding vendors with a tip is expected, and it will serve as a thank-you for a job well done. But figuring out whom to tip, how much to pay, and when to offer it can be tricky.

While some vendors include gratuities in their fees, many will leave the amount up to you -- and the level of service they provide can influence what you give them. Tips can add up quickly, costing you a few thousand dollars. Gratuities for caterers alone can be $200 to $600 or more, for example, depending on the number of guests, your catering costs, and where you live. Most tips should be handed out the day of the wedding, so it's wise to assign the job to a friend or family member. A follow-up thank-you note is often a valued tip in itself, as your word can be a recommendation for the vendor.

Officiants...
While it isn't necessary to tip priests, ministers, rabbis, or other religious officiants (many of them, in fact, won't accept cash tips), if you want to thank them for their services, consider making a donation to their organization or house of worship. A typical amount is $75 to $100, separate from any fee you may be charged for the officiant's time.

If you belong to a church, your own minister or priest may perform the wedding at no charge. In this case, you could make a donation to the church, and as an extra thank-you, consider sending something personal, such as a gift certificate to a nice restaurant.

If your wedding is performed by a civil employee such as a judge, clerk, or other nonreligious official, then forgo a gratuity. Such officiants are paid a flat rate and are usually not permitted to accept tips or donations -- local law may actually prohibit it. A thoughtful card, however, is always appreciated.

Catering Staff...
Many caterers include a gratuity in their contract to be divided up among the workers, but be sure to ask. If the gratuity isn't included, plan on tipping all staff members, including the catering or banquet manager, waiters, bartenders, chefs, and other essential workers who help serve guests.

"Most catering staff members receive a decent hourly wage, however, so you needn't go overboard on their tips," says Joe Piane, sales manager and executive chef at Piane Caterers in Wilmington, Delaware.

You can calculate the tip as a percentage of the cost of your total catering bill. Figure on paying about 15 to 20 percent of the amount for the banquet manager to share with the kitchen and serving staff. Another way to compute the gratuity is to offer a flat amount for each worker, which is often a more economical method, especially if your catering company is expensive. You'll want to give roughly $100 to $200 for the catering or banquet manager, $50 each for chefs (and bakers), and $20 to $30 each for waiters and kitchen staff, divided into separate envelopes.

Tips can be paid in advance to the director of the catering company, or you can hand them to the banquet manager toward the end of the evening.

Musicians & DJs...
Tipping customs vary, depending on whether you hire an independent band or deejay or book through an agency. For independent bands that book their own gigs, tipping is not customary.

"No matter what your deejay or band is charging, the money is going right into their pockets, so don't feel like you have to give extra, unless of course they really went above and beyond," says Kelly Scriven, owner of the Bride's Maid, a wedding consulting business in Whitman, Massachusetts. Valerie Romanoff, owner of New York City--based Starlight Orchestras, adds, "We're always pleasantly surprised when clients tip us and recognize the entertainment value of what we provide, but it's not expected."

If you employ your band or deejay through an entertainment agency, the company will usually either include a gratuity in the contract or suggest that you give each band member or deejay a little extra in cash. If your contract includes a "service charge," don't assume that it is the gratuity. "The service charge often goes right back to the company," says Scriven.

Musicians should be tipped about $20 to $25 apiece; deejays get at least $25. Many bands offer a vocalist for the ceremony at an additional cost. Tip him or her the same amount as you would one of the other musicians. Hand out the tips in cash at the end of the night.

Stylists & Makeup Artists...
Even though it's a particularly special day, you can still tip stylists and makeup artists as you would for a regular appointment -- 15 to 20 percent. For each assistant who helps with secondary tasks, such as shampooing, plan on giving a gratuity of $3 to $5.

You can hand out tips in envelopes directly to stylists, or leave them at the salon's front desk. If you're short on cash, it's fine to tip by check or include it on a charge. If a stylist comes to your home or the wedding site, tip as you would at a salon, but in general, makeup artists and hair stylists who own their own businesses are not tipped.

Photographers, Videographers, Florists, & Wedding Coordinators...
For people who own their own businesses, as many of these vendors do, tipping isn't necessary. For photographers, videographers, and florists who do not own their own businesses, tip $30 to $50; wedding coordinators should be given about $50 to $100.

If you feel that the service you received from one of these vendors was extraordinary (say, if the videographer stayed and took footage of an after-wedding party even though it wasn't in his contract), an additional 10 percent tip would be a nice gesture, Or you might send a thank-you gift such as flowers or a print from your photographer showing the vendor in action at your wedding.

Site Staff...
Wherever you have your wedding, there will likely be many behind-the-scenes workers, such as coat checkers, powder-room attendants, or parking valets. Make sure you do not overlook these people -- while you may not have much contact with them throughout the celebration, they help keep guests happy. Sometime before the wedding, ask the site manager to instruct workers not to accept any tips from guests. Instead, plan on tipping them yourself. At the end of the evening, pay coat checkers a total of $1 to $2 per guest, which they can share. Powder-room attendants should receive 50 cents to $1 per guest, to be divided among them. Set aside $1 to $1.50 per car to give to the parking manager, who can then divide up the cash among the valets.

Seamstresses, Delivery People, & Drivers...
Though they won't actually be at the wedding, these workers' preparatory roles are just as important, so be sure to thank them in some way.

The people delivering the flowers and cake should receive at least $5 each at the time they make their deliveries. A gratuity for your limousine driver may already be included in your bill, but if it's not, consider giving a tip of 15 to 20 percent of the cost (pay it in cash when the driver picks you up). For seamstresses, a cash tip is not expected, but sending a small gift such as a photo of you in your dress is a wonderful way to show your gratitude.

I hope this has help with an item most people don't know much about

Best regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Kids at wedding by Peter Bruce Photo


I wanted to follow up on my last blog about Destinations weddings. I feel that I left a few ones out,which I will cover over the next few days. Giving you more info and detail on get away weddings. One thing I think is great at weddings and we have talk about this in the past,is kids at weddings,but when it is a Destination wedding and kids are coming,well then it is different. When planning a wedding abroad or away from your city of residence, remember to take into account the children that you have invited. In fact, your own children may be attending the wedding and someone needs to provide for them. Since you want to enjoy a little time with new your new spouse, it might a good idea to have the children stay at the hotel or resort with a trusted relative. By doing this, the couple is not constantly worried about the children and the relative will have time to entertain them.

The children will most likely be different age brackets which might make keeping them occupied more difficult but if they are family, they will be used to one another. Generally, there are a few ways to keep the kids happy during their stay.

  • Make sure the sightseeing is appropriate for the children. Anything too strenuous or exhausting for small children should be reconsidered. That is not to say that none of the adults should go. But maybe the children should stay back with someone who does not wish to go.

  • Be safe. One thing that happens when vacationing or traveling to a resort or hotel for a wedding, the jubilant emotions cloud judgments. Common sense must be used when allowing children near water, nears strangers, and allowing them to wander about in a strange place. It is easy to lose sight of the children so be diligent and have other people help so that everyone enjoys himself or herself.

  • Organize activities specifically for children, both during the stay and at the wedding reception. Face painting, puppet shows, building sandcastles, making snowmen, and age appropriate crafts will help children to avoid boredom.


Just tell them it is a holiday with a big party for someone. Hope this helps,please let us know
Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Kids never get in the way,they are the way. Peter Bruce Photo


I wanted to follow up on my last blog about Destinations weddings. I feel that I left a few ones out,which I will cover over the next few days. Giving you more info and detail on get away weddings. One thing I think is great at weddings and we have talk about this in the past,is kids at weddings,but when it is a Destination wedding and kids are coming,well then it is different. When planning a wedding abroad or away from your city of residence, remember to take into account the children that you have invited. In fact, your own children may be attending the wedding and someone needs to provide for them. Since you want to enjoy a little time with new your new spouse, it might a good idea to have the children stay at the hotel or resort with a trusted relative. By doing this, the couple is not constantly worried about the children and the relative will have time to entertain them.

The children will most likely be different age brackets which might make keeping them occupied more difficult but if they are family, they will be used to one another. Generally, there are a few ways to keep the kids happy during their stay.

  • Make sure the sightseeing is appropriate for the children. Anything too strenuous or exhausting for small children should be reconsidered. That is not to say that none of the adults should go. But maybe the children should stay back with someone who does not wish to go.

  • Be safe. One thing that happens when vacationing or traveling to a resort or hotel for a wedding, the jubilant emotions cloud judgments. Common sense must be used when allowing children near water, nears strangers, and allowing them to wander about in a strange place. It is easy to lose sight of the children so be diligent and have other people help so that everyone enjoys himself or herself.

  • Organize activities specifically for children, both during the stay and at the wedding reception. Face painting, puppet shows, building sandcastles, making snowmen, and age appropriate crafts will help children to avoid boredom.


Just tell them it is a holiday with a big party for someone. Hope this helps,please let us know
Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Monday, October 19, 2009

Mexican wedding by Peter Bruce


Destination weddings are an incredible opportunity to get magazine-worthy images of your wedding day! This is a once in a life-time event and the pictures/video are all you will have left afterward. Take it seriously and expect to invest in this service for a professional. Peter Bruce Photo & Video have done many destination weddings and they can be great. And one most important thing, I am happy to go to Paris with you foe your wedding.

Here are some tips to get the most out of your destination wedding photography/videography...

1. Hire a serious pro! Don't expect that a beautiful location will automatically mean you get great shots. It takes a professional to interpret lighting, positioning, architecture, storytelling and combine it all with great equipment and experience to produce stunning images.





2. Take your time! See if your photographer will set aside a few hours for bridal portraits on the day after the wedding (or if you have a really small wedding, on the day of the wedding). You can travel the area and hit all the hot spots. After all, isn't that why you chose it?



3. Destination weddings are all about the "Experience." Capture every emotional moment by having your photography/videography team arrive early enough to shoot the getting ready process. Hair/Makeup are some of our favorite shots - energy is high and emotions are, too! Make sure your professional provides you with a list of tips so you can have all those little details like your dress, shoes, and jewelry ready, too.




4. Audio is everything! Beach weddings are windy and many PA systems echoe and distort the voice. Most people think of video as a camera, but don't ever realize that even in the most capable hands a video is nothing without great audio of your ceremony, interactions of family and friends, etc. Make sure your videographer uses professional wireless microphones on both the groom and the officiant (as a back-up).



After all is said and done, see if your photographer can submit your images to magazines or websites. Remember all those great ones you saw while planning your wedding? That could be you...but not without a great professional on your side


I hope this help with your getaway weddings,let me know. Also remember happy to travel with you for a wedding.

Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Getaway weddings by Peter Bruce


Destination weddings are an incredible opportunity to get magazine-worthy images of your wedding day! This is a once in a life-time event and the pictures/video are all you will have left afterward. Take it seriously and expect to invest in this service for a professional. Peter Bruce Photo & Video have done many destination weddings and they can be great. And one most important thing, I am happy to go to Paris with you foe your wedding.

Here are some tips to get the most out of your destination wedding photography/videography...

1. Hire a serious pro! Don't expect that a beautiful location will automatically mean you get great shots. It takes a professional to interpret lighting, positioning, architecture, storytelling and combine it all with great equipment and experience to produce stunning images.





2. Take your time! See if your photographer will set aside a few hours for bridal portraits on the day after the wedding (or if you have a really small wedding, on the day of the wedding). You can travel the area and hit all the hot spots. After all, isn't that why you chose it?



3. Destination weddings are all about the "Experience." Capture every emotional moment by having your photography/videography team arrive early enough to shoot the getting ready process. Hair/Makeup are some of our favorite shots - energy is high and emotions are, too! Make sure your professional provides you with a list of tips so you can have all those little details like your dress, shoes, and jewelry ready, too.




4. Audio is everything! Beach weddings are windy and many PA systems echoe and distort the voice. Most people think of video as a camera, but don't ever realize that even in the most capable hands a video is nothing without great audio of your ceremony, interactions of family and friends, etc. Make sure your videographer uses professional wireless microphones on both the groom and the officiant (as a back-up).



After all is said and done, see if your photographer can submit your images to magazines or websites. Remember all those great ones you saw while planning your wedding? That could be you...but not without a great professional on your side


I hope this help with your getaway weddings,let me know. Also remember happy to travel with you for a wedding.

Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & Video

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Trentadue winery by Peter Bruce


Why Peter Bruce Photo & Video like Trentadue Winery

Italians are famous for their warm hospitality and zest for living. They may not have invented la dolce vita (“the sweet life”), but they perfected the recipe for it: good friends, good food and good wine, plus a generous splash of lively music. If this sounds like your idea of a good time, you’ll be happy to know that Trentadue Winery can provide all the ingredients for a really smashing special event.

The winery entrance is marked by stone pillars topped with crouching lions; from here it’s a short drive through the vineyards to the tasting room and event facilities. A bubbling lion-head fountain marks the entrance to the Garden Area, which consists of a quaint lattice arbor with stage, dance floor, room for tables, and a sunny lawn area. At one end of the lawn, a smaller Tuscan-style arbor, its columns and trellis wrapped in leafy vines, makes a romantic spot for exchanging vows. Along the west side of the entire space, a windbreak of sweet gum and redwood trees casts a shade as cool and refreshing as a drink of spring water on a hot afternoon. Standing here in the sun, it’s hard to imagine anything lovelier, but at night, with twinkle lights covering fences, trees and both arbors, everything sparkles like a miniature Milky Way. Additional lighting, thoughtfully equipped with dimmers, means your guests will be able to see the festivities without being blinded.

A second, more dramatic, ceremony site is the vast North Lawn on the opposite side of the Event Center. Getting married here is like getting married in a vineyard: There are grapevines all around you with views of redwoods and mountains beyond.

But what if your event is planned for the cooler months? Never fear—the Trentadue family has built an indoor facility, the Sala del Leone (“Hall of the Lion”). This expansive space has a white, peaked, beamed ceiling, hand-sponged golden walls, and intriguing glass and wrought-iron light fixtures and sconces. Plenty of arched French doors all around the building allow your guests to feel connected to the natural beauty that surrounds them, yet protected from the elements. Potted olive trees (yes, they are strung with twinkle lights) create a “Mediterranean” look, but this versatile room blends with any d├ęcor. Recently, a corporate event featured a Morrocan theme, draping the walls to resemble a Bedouin tent. Should your guests wish to wander over to the arbor area, they are free to do so, because when you host your event at Trentadue, all the facilities are included in the rental price. And though the panoramic views of spreading vineyards and distant wooded mountains may make you think you’re far from the madding crowd, the bustling town of Santa Rosa is a mere twenty minutes away!

So if you like to party “Italian style,” the folks at Trentadue Winery would be happy to help you out. They can provide everything from award-winning wines to topnotch coordination services. All you need to do is add friends and stir!



Friday, October 9, 2009

Westin St Francis on Union Square with Julie & Juan


Julie & Juan at the Westin St Francis on Union Square…

Once again Peter Bruce Photo & Video nails it.After a warm and personal ceremony the day before at the great St Peter & Pauls church in North beach, Julie and Juan had a great second ceremony and party at the Westin on Union square. As the only hotel located on Union Square, The Westin St. Francis is a majestic address among San Francisco wedding sites. Julie & Juan or ‘J & J” enchanted their guests with the stylish ambiance where stately marble columns, ornate balconies, and intricate woodworking of yesteryear. Even though the fog rolled in and the power went out this fun and happy couple partied on with there family and friends. Of course the professional staff of the Westin were at there best and Peter Bruce photo, along with team bELLE were able to get some great shots. Hope you enjoy,please let us know



Regards

Peter Bruce Photo

Thursday, October 8, 2009

Holman Ranch wedding


Peter Bruce photo & Video was lucky enough to shoot Tera & Johnaton at the wonderful Holman Ranch.Which is perched high above the lush, rolling hills of Carmel Valley, with breathtaking 360 degree views of the surrounding Santa Lucia Mountains, the 400-acre country estate of Holman Ranch is the ultimate place to create memories for a wedding. They offer a unique facility with indoor and outdoor spaces, a tribute to the past and Carmel Valley and a beautiful setting forthere wedding. What a fun couple,great party. The professional and wonderful Patty Spires running the ship, and as always the top end staff of Holman made the day run perfect.


Hope you enjoy the shots,please let me know

Best Peter Bruce Photo & team bELLE

Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Math of Marriage


Peter Bruce Photo & Video just having fun.Marriage and Wedding Jokes

1) Mathematics of Marriage...

  1. Smart man + smart woman = romance
  2. Smart man + dumb woman = pregnancy
  3. Dumb man + smart woman = affair
  4. Dumb man + dumb woman = marriage
  5. Smart boss + smart employee = profit
  6. Smart boss + dumb employee = production
  7. Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
  8. Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime

2) More Mathematics of Marriage...

Chances of a man winning an argument

3) Who is there...

Three older ladies were discussing the problems of getting older. One said, 'Sometimes I catch myself with a jar of mayonnaise in my hand, in front of the refrigerator, and can't remember whether I need to put it away, or start making a sandwich' .

The second lady chimed in, 'Yes, sometimes I find myself standing on the stairs and can't remember whether I was on my way up or on my way down.'

The third one responded, 'Well, I am glad I don't have that problem; knock on wood, 'as she rapped her knuckles on the table. She looked up and said, 'That must be the door, I'll get it!'

4) Some Psychology...

A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.

A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.

A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

5) Classic Wedding Jokes from best man speeches...

  1. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
  2. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
  3. To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
  4. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot & not try to understand her at all.
  5. Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
  6. Any married man should forget his mistakes, there's no use in two people remembering the same thing.
  7. Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
  8. Women somehow deteriorate during the night.
  9. A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't .
  10. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
  11. A woman has the last word in any argument.
  12. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
  13. There are 2 times when a man doesn't understand a woman - before marriage and after marriage.

6) True Marriage Story...

Man forced to marry four wives in six months

A Saudi man is in hospital after his divorced parents forced him to marry four times within six months. The battle began when the father insisted the boy should marry a girl from his side of the family. The mother retaliated by ordering him to wed a girl from her side, reports Arab News quoting Al-Watan daily. But the father wasn't happy with the balance of power and insisted on a third wife from his side, to show who was boss.

The mother, not to be outdone, then demanded that her son include another wife from her side of the family. The son has now been admitted to a hospital for psychological treatment. He is refusing to see his parents or his wives.

7) Advanced Marriage Maths...

Facts about marriage proposals

When asked if there was anything they would have changed about one of the most romantic moments of their lives, several women said a 'bigger diamond!'

  • 54% of men still get down on one knee
  • 44% of men ask their partner's father for permission to marry
  • 57% of men cry when she said yes
  • 65% of women say he could have put more effort and preparation into the proposal
  • 25% of couples wait longer than five years before taking their relationship that step further
  • 23% of women have been proposed to more than once

Hopr you enjoyed this, I meant it all in fun

Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & team bELLE

Math of Marriage

Peter Bruce Photo & Video just having fun.Marriage and Wedding Jokes

1) Mathematics of Marriage...

  1. Smart man + smart woman = romance
  2. Smart man + dumb woman = pregnancy
  3. Dumb man + smart woman = affair
  4. Dumb man + dumb woman = marriage
  5. Smart boss + smart employee = profit
  6. Smart boss + dumb employee = production
  7. Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
  8. Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime

2) More Mathematics of Marriage...

Chances of a man winning an argument

3) Who is there...

Three older ladies were discussing the problems of getting older. One said, 'Sometimes I catch myself with a jar of mayonnaise in my hand, in front of the refrigerator, and can't remember whether I need to put it away, or start making a sandwich' .

The second lady chimed in, 'Yes, sometimes I find myself standing on the stairs and can't remember whether I was on my way up or on my way down.'

The third one responded, 'Well, I am glad I don't have that problem; knock on wood, 'as she rapped her knuckles on the table. She looked up and said, 'That must be the door, I'll get it!'

4) Some Psychology...

A man will pay $2 for a $1 item he needs.

A woman will pay $1 for a $2 item that she doesn't need.

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.

A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.

5) Classic Wedding Jokes from best man speeches...

  1. A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
  2. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
  3. To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
  4. To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot & not try to understand her at all.
  5. Married men live longer than single men, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
  6. Any married man should forget his mistakes, there's no use in two people remembering the same thing.
  7. Men wake up as good-looking as they went to bed.
  8. Women somehow deteriorate during the night.
  9. A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't .
  10. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
  11. A woman has the last word in any argument.
  12. Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
  13. There are 2 times when a man doesn't understand a woman - before marriage and after marriage.

6) True Marriage Story...

Man forced to marry four wives in six months

A Saudi man is in hospital after his divorced parents forced him to marry four times within six months. The battle began when the father insisted the boy should marry a girl from his side of the family. The mother retaliated by ordering him to wed a girl from her side, reports Arab News quoting Al-Watan daily. But the father wasn't happy with the balance of power and insisted on a third wife from his side, to show who was boss.

The mother, not to be outdone, then demanded that her son include another wife from her side of the family. The son has now been admitted to a hospital for psychological treatment. He is refusing to see his parents or his wives.

7) Advanced Marriage Maths...

Facts about marriage proposals

When asked if there was anything they would have changed about one of the most romantic moments of their lives, several women said a 'bigger diamond!'

  • 54% of men still get down on one knee
  • 44% of men ask their partner's father for permission to marry
  • 57% of men cry when she said yes
  • 65% of women say he could have put more effort and preparation into the proposal
  • 25% of couples wait longer than five years before taking their relationship that step further
  • 23% of women have been proposed to more than once

Hopr you enjoyed this, I meant it all in fun

Best Regards Peter Bruce Photo & team bELLE

Thursday, October 1, 2009

Want to open a big can of wedding worms,lets talk KIDS AT WEDDINGS



Want to open a big can of wedding worms? Tell people you don't want children at your wedding. You’ll get a couple of supporters, but others will really be pissed at you. Mostly the ones on your guest list who can’t imagine leaving or are to cheap to their kids with a sitter.

Putting on a kid free wedding is one way to pull back the guest list for a small wedding but be prepared for criticism, you may become the devil. Going by the comments on some bridal chat boards, there are some pretty strong opinions about rug rats and weddings. Some can’t imagine why you wouldn’t want kids at the wedding. They argue that it’s anti family not to invite kids and that weddings are all about family. Others can’t comprehend why anyone would want kids underfoot at such an big people event like a wedding.

We had kids at our wedding. There were only a few , but we wouldn’t have had it any other way. That being said, I can totally understand why some couples opt for a no children wedding. Couples generally spend months planning their weddings, not to mention saving for the wedding. Along comesa pissed off toddler, and Wamoo! perfection is down the drain, especially if it happens during the vows.Forget someone cel phone going off during the vows, try 105 dbs of kids scream.

Kids Love them to death are very unpredictable. They cry and scream. They make messes. They bump into things and are known to stick their fingers into places that they shouldn’t like the cake, nose, you get the picture. But most times, they’re also surprisingly well behaved during special occasions and can add a lot to a wedding Day.

If you are sure you want a no kid wedding, how do you ensure that your adult guests won’t bring their rug rats.

Whether your motives for going kid free are to limit the guest list, or a morbid fear that crying babies, pissed off toddlers & playful preschoolers will make havoc on your wedding, here are some simple ways to get the message across to your guests that kids aren’t invited without loosing friends...

Wat before you send out the invites, call friends and family who have kids and let them know that a wedding invitation is on the way and that you have choosen for a no kid wedding. That way they will have time to line up babysitters.After they have ripped your ears off...What's wrong with my Johnny.

Wedding experts including me,say that it’s tacky to write ‘no children’ on the invites. Instead, state on the RSVP card that the wedding will be an ‘adult only reception’. Another way of saying this is to write the following on the RSVP card: “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” and just include the number of adults you want to come.

Be firm with this . If you cave at your sister’s request to bring her little ones, and your friend’s little ones were forced to stay with babysitters, there will be hurt feelings and maybe blood.

One way to please your guests with kids provide to have a babysitter or two at the wedding . Set up fun activities like a craft center to keep the kids busy. One word of caution here some kids get severe separation anxiety and will not take to this idea very well. Keep this in mind when you are pursuing this option. And no kids EVER died from watching to many movies at a wedding in the back room, it will be more fun for them. One down side I see to not having kids at the wedding, setting next to you, is you don't get to eat their left over fried food.

Cheers Peter Bruce Photo and bELLE Team